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Summary: Very informative, on the money.
Comment: Seems the author truly knows what its like for a woman to date someone she doesn't really like all that much but for some reason it turns into something more and ultimately does not work out. Very Honest book and I really learned alot about myself and why I let these things happen. Made me think about why I do certain things, and will avoid doing them to avoid getting hurt. Great book!
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Summary: "Momma said"...this is becoming a bit redundant...
Comment: Another fun, antidotal, book chalked full of common relationship cliches that we smart women wish were not true. But, as I said before "my momma said..." Cute and entertaining, light and charming a fun book to give to a girlfriend as a gag gift. However, if you have even a trace of common sense...just stick to your common sense...
Although, if you are picking up this book because you think you cannot find Mr. Right/Mrs. Right on your own, STOP, and do not pick up this book or any other book. As a matter of fact, burn all those relationship books on your night-stand (preferably some place safe), invest in a sexy outfit, go out on the town and use your "COMMON SENSE..." And, for godsake, be your self!!!! That is the sexiest quality any of us woman have...
(Disclaimer: large breasts, tight buttocks, nice teeth are not qualities, they are physical attributes. Not to be confused with qualities of character, i.e. strong sense of self, integrity, good sense of humor and a sexy outfit.) ;)
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Summary: tnvolsgirl
Comment: I wasn't crazy about the book itself. But...the condition of the book was very good and the seller got it to me quickly.
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Summary: Changed my whole perspective
Comment: I'm a 40 year old woman who's had 3 long term relationships over the past 14 years - all with guys who had some great characteristics, so I just figured I'd learn to accept their short comings, though they were significant (i.e., lack of education, argumentative, and simple mindedness). I not expecting perfection, but I'm introspective, bright, fairly attractive, successful in my career, and tired of repeating the same mistakes.
Kerner's book is a quick read, yet his honest, straightforward approach helped me understand why I move forward with guys I know I'm not that into right from the start. And it couldn't have come at a better time, for I had just been obsessing over a guy who I was supposedly in a 'casual relationship' with.
I also now have a much better understanding of the male mind, and consequently, can move toward finding the man I deserve with a renewed sense of confidence. And I can assure you, I'm gaining ground, as I'm now attracting men who are much better suited for me than ever before.
So no matter where you are on the relationship track, if the title of this book strikes a cord for any reason, I strongly suggest reading it. It can change, or even save your life.
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Summary: Book with bad advice
Comment: To begin with, this book has some good points. For example, women have to leave the "transitional" guy if they want to find what they are looking for. Of course, if you are with a guy, other guys won't approach you because they think you already have a S.O.
Having said this, this book is based on a false premise: that young attractive women (the target readers) have to raise their standards to meet the man of their dreams. This is a very bad advice and I will explain why.
Firstly, young hot women don't need to be asked to raise their standards. They have unreasonable and unrealistic standards in the first place: they want the guy to be handsome, decided, rich, confident, with the right income, with the right car, with the right political ideology. He has to say the right words in the right order, have the right attitude, treat them exactly the way they want. Be sensitive but also an alpha male. And he must be completely right the first time, because, otherwise, there will be no second one. Young hot women dismiss guys based on the most ridicule reasons (for example, their shoes). I could go on and on, but every guy who has tried to approach a young hot woman during the last 20 years knows what I am talking about.
In fact, young hot women are driven by a false perception of abundance. When you have lots of guys trying to talk to you, you can be picky, can't you? No. You can't. As I have said, this is a false perception. 95% of the guys who approach young hot women only want to bang them a couple of times and then move on. And women are usually looking for a relationship. So young hot women don't have as many possibilities as they think.
Between all the guys that try to approach young women, there are a few that are thinking about something more solid than getting laid. But they are quickly dismissed by young women. They are often shy guys or they are not as confident as the ones who are selected by young women. Or maybe they don't have the luxury car. So young hot women end up being "used and left" by the most attractive guys while wondering "where have all the good men gone?"
Of course, young hot women (and everybody) would prefer men who have the right appearance, job, wealth and the right attitude towards commitment, but there is a very short supply of them. This is the problem of this book: that a naive young women can interpret it like "if I raise my standards and leave the transitional guy, I will meet an A+ guy". Well, sometimes this happens but this is like winning the lottery.
So the book is counterproductive. But giving the bad advice: "raise your standards. don't be satisfied with the guys you are with", only produces more heartbreak. The problem are not standards that are too low but standards which are not adequate. Instead of scaring away guys who have the wrong car or words try to scare away guys who have the wrong attitude towards commitment (after all, the car can be replaced and the first words are not that important). Instead of being driven by appearance, try to be driven by reality. It's time to grow up and sort out your priorities in life. There is nobody like Prince Charming (because Prince Charming is a fictitious character) but define what are the main qualities you are looking for in a man and try not to scare away the guys who have these qualities.
So if you buy this book, please separate the wheat from the chaff if you don't want to be forty and single, waiting for this A+ guy which will never appear.
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