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Summary: So Glad I Got This!
Comment: After reading this book, I finally figured out what has been confusing me about guys all my life. They are SO much simpler than I gave them credit for. What a revelation! Now I feel like I kind of have the upper hand in this whole relationship thing -- and I LOVE that. It's like someone just gave me the secret "guy manual," but guys don't have a clue that I have it. Yay for me...and for this book.
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Summary: Wow! This is a good read for women and men.
Comment: I was expecting so much less because of everyones effort to be so politically correct. This book is not like that at all. I could see examples of myself, as well as all of my friends and family. I think that it is important to remember that this book teaches women how to interpret men and mens behavior so that women can find a good guy and keep her relationship interesting. This is not meant to be a book about how you can entertain your lazy man. I feel like I learned a lot about my own habits and can now recognize when a women is making an effort in a relationship. Sure, the book is a bit harsh, but it is also very strait forward regarding the thought process of men. I did not see anything in this book that wasn't true for most men. If it didn't apply to me, I could easily recognize someone whom it did apply. I am happily married, and I think that my wife will get a lot out of this book too. It has helped me understand that I am not alone in my behavior, and I think that I may now approach negative situations differently so that I might send a more positive signal to my loved one. This is a fun read for anyone sexually active.
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Summary: Insightful dating advice for the relationship challenged woman
Comment: Wow! Fabulous insight and refreshing analysis into the simple minds of men. A real primer on improving relationships and taking them to the next level. Terrific advice for single women who have struggled to succeed romantically. I've purchased a few extra copies for some dear friends.
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Summary: Take it Seriously....or Not?
Comment: I gave this book 3 stars in an effort to be fair. Although the book is both rather degrading to men and women alike, I think a lot of it is meant to be humorous and tongue-in-cheek. I don't think it's written as gospel and meant to be taken totally seriously, in other words. While some parts of this books positively made me cringe, other parts I got a bit of a laugh out of.
Not much to be gained from this book if you are chasing serious advice on dating, but a relatively fun read if you don't put any weight on the information and take it seriously.
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Summary: Every Man Objectifies Women?
Comment: In this book, the author claims that every man objectifies women. All men view women, not as human beings with feelings, but rather as vessels to squirt their sperm into. Any displays of warmth and sensitivity on their part are merely just tricks men use to bed a woman as quickly as possible. If women think otherwise, they are dupes.
However, after making these claims, I think it dawned on the author that if he kept portraying men as total scumbags, then maybe women won't want to have sex with one again. Therefore, every now and then, he'll inject a redeeming quality about men...but in so doing, ends up contradicting himself. For example, earlier in the book, he says that the only reason why men write poetry is because women love that mushy stuff and this makes them easier prey to lure into bed....but then later says that the fact that men write poetry proves how deeply sensitive they really are. So which is it -- are they using poetry as a ploy to lure women into bed or as a means to describe sincere emotions? Another example is when he says that men are simple, honest creatures and, therefore, what they say should be taken at face value....except when they're trying to get you into bed because then they'll lie through their teeth. And except when they say "I'll call you" because they're just saying that to not hurt your feelings...but other than that, men are as honest as honest can be.
There is "hope", according to the author, for women to be able to change this zebra's stripes. That hope comes in the form of sex. You see, before a man has sex with a woman, he objectifies her and has no interest in relating to her as a human being with feelings...however, once he has sex with her, through the magic of sex, he somehow grows a conscience and decides from then on that he's going to relate to her on a human level. Well, actually, first he scores how well she performed during sex and if she got a high score, THEN he wants to have a meaningful relationship with her. Therefore, the author advises women to dress as slutty as possible so men will know that she wants to have sex as early as possible. The faster she has sex with him, the faster she can win his love. He also gives tips on how a woman can achieve a high score in bed. The higher the score, the greater his love.
Well, if this is true, then men must be falling madly in love every time they have sex with a prostitute. So the movie Pretty Woman was based on reality! Wow, and to think I've been so naive this whole time.
This advice would be hilarious if it weren't meant to be taken seriously. In reality, if you dress like a hooker, you will be treated like a hooker. If you have sex with a man too soon, then he won't have the emotional investment necessary to fall in love with you. If you're good in bed (have a high sex score), then yes, he will return to you, but not because he's overcome with love, but simply because you're great in bed.
The author says he's helping women, but sometimes I get the feeling that he hates women. For example, he says when men have sex with you, the whole time they're imagining having sex with someone else. Even if this were true (and it probably is for BOTH sexes), then how does a woman benefit from knowing this? Would you benefit if your lover said to you, "Hey, honey, wasn't last night great? I was quite the animal, wasn't I? You want to know why? Because the whole time I was imagining your best friend. Yep, that's the only way I could get it up for you. How do you like them apples?" Doesn't this sound just a tad bit mean-spirited?
And the book abounds with double-standards, too. For example, he thinks the character Lucy in the t.v. show I Love Lucy is a despicable character because she lies and exploits people in order to get what she wants...yet when men lie and exploit women in order to get what they want (sex), he sees this as perfectly normal and understandable. Another example is when he says it's a turnoff for a woman to be a workaholic because her job takes her away from paying attention to her man...yet when a man is a workaholic and his job takes him away from paying attention to his woman, again he sees this as perfectly normal and understandable.
I'm not really sure why the author wrote this book. Is he trying to convince women that men are just too shallow to have a meaningful relationship with? Should we stop looking at them as long-term investments because men are only capable of valuing a woman for what she does or what he can get from her (sex,comfort) rather than value her for who she is? And since men treat women like sex toys, should women treat them the same and simply spit them out like a piece of gum when they've lost their flavor? If that's the case, then not only does this author enjoy objectifying women...but he enjoys objectifying men as well.
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