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Summary: bought as a gift but read it myself!
Comment: No higher review than liking a book so much that it becomes part of your own library instead of getting gift wrapped. I bought this for a friend's birthday... and even though I'm not in the market for a date, I learned so much about my interactions with others, that I kept the book myself to finish and share. Sold, practical analysis of your relationship style that can be applied in non-dating situations, from my perspective.
I think it would be useful from new-to-dating up through the senior citizens on the dating scene. (There, now my friend won't be identified - I've just covered the 50 year spectrum of the women in my life who are "looking!").
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Summary: Worth every penny and sooo easy to read and follow.....
Comment: This book nails it! It catagorizes the types of men we have all dated and helps us see them for who they are/were. I would highly recommend this book. It is wonderful to see the different types of men who can't give themselves to us. It is NOTHING we did. We did not break them and it is NOT our job to fix them. Wake up ladies and realize the time we waste on those detour men could be better spent accepting and loving our selves and giving into our friendships. If you have done your best and it still isn't working or he is toxic Please cut your ties to him. It rarely if ever gets better and pulling us down with them destroys two spirits. You deserve better and there will be men out there that will cherish you and love you. Without the DRAMA. Life is too short, but way too long when wasted on a hopeless cause like toxic men!
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Summary: 1/2 Dating Advice, 1/2 Self-Help
Comment: I was skeptical before I read this book based on the different female personality types that are the focus of the book. I thought, "Oh, no WAY will I match any of these types to a 'T', so why bother?" Imagine my surprise when I found that I possessed a few characteristics of *several* personality types, which grabbed my interest. Once I identified my self-defeating behaviors that lead to dating angst, I was given a list of suggestions on how to redirect energy into something positive versus detrimental. For example, the author suggests that instead of obsessing over when the phone will ring next, women should distract themselves by indulging in positive, nurturing activities and behaviors (she gives specifics in the book for each). It is really sobering to see yourself reflected in these chapters, but everything is always offered as a chance to change for YOUR OWN GOOD with hints on how to do it.
Once the personality types are discussed and addressed, the author gives some very clear, specific dating advice. The nitty gritty stuff includes who should pay for the first date, the pros and cons of online dating, (definately not my thing, but to each his/her own) and so on.
Mixed in with the chapters are comments from "real" men who discuss their personal experiences with the various personality types, and offer feedback on how they view wait time to place a first phone call, how they deal with clingy women, the benefits of dating a woman who earns more money, etc.
Overall, I found this book to be very helpful. It does mix in a great deal of self-help for the various issues that women face that create problems when attempting to find happiness in a relationship. Not as helpful but interesting were the "dos and don'ts" of dating which seemed a bit repetitive from earlier chapters. However, the layout of the book was unique and the added element of the male perspective made it a very quick, useful read.
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Summary: EXTREMELY HELPFUL
Comment: I REALLY ENJOYED READING THE DATING CURE BY RHONDA FINDLING, DEFINITELY AS MUCH AS I ENJOYED HER OTHER BOOK, DON'T CALL THAT MAN.
THE DATING CURE HAS CHAPTERS CALLED, THE ART OF PLAYING IT COOL, WHY IS A GOOD MAN HARD TO FIND AND CREATING ROMANTIC OPPORTUNITIES AND I COULDN'T WAIT TO READ WHAT WAS INSIDE THOSE CHAPTERS. RHONDA DOESN'T DISAPPOINT HERE EITHER. IN EACH CHAPTER ARE EXAMPLES AND LOTS OF INFORMATION THAT TRULY EDUCATE WOMEN.
ALSO, IN THE BOOK SHE REFERS TO WOMEN AS MS. ALL ABOUT ME, MS DESPERATE AND MS. CAN'T LET GO AND THEN SHE GIVES VERY INSIGHTFUL INFORMATION ON HOW EACH WOMAN CAN TURN A MAN OFF AND DEFEAT HER PURPOSE OF GETTING A MAN. THERE'S ALSO A LOT OF INFORMATION ON HOW TO RECOVER FROM THESE AND OTHER PERSONALITY TRAITS THAT PUSH MEN AWAY. I GAVE FIVE STARS ON HER OTHER BOOK, DON'T CALL THAT MAN AND DEFINITELY GIVE ANOTHER FIVE STARS FOR THE DATING CURE BECAUSE I REALLY LEARNED A LOT.
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Summary: More light on the problem
Comment: I'm one of the men in the Roundtable of Men in the book who gave feedback on dating and relationships.
Now for the book:
First, any woman having difficulty meeting and dating needs to ask herself some questions: Is there something about me or my approach that turns men off? Am I sending out rejecting messages at the same time as I am trying to charm?
Rhonda's book provides a helpful tool for getting the answer to these questions. A woman who can recognize herself in any of these seven relationship-destroying types has taken a big first step in getting out of the trap she is in. Of course, as in any typology, none of these seven may fit you perfectly, but you may recognize in one or another of these seven types, something familiar, something that seems like you or the way you operate with men. If you do, that's something to work on. If you see Ms. All About Me, you should try more listening and empathy. If you spot Ms. Matrimony, then it's time to be more discreet about your grand ambition. And so on for each of the seven types. The book gives many specific action suggestions for each type. The key is recognizing yourself in any of these types.
Now, it does take a willingness to look at oneself to use the tool effectively. Not every woman is willing to do that. It's so much easier and more comforting to blame one's loneliness on the lack of eligible men or complain that men are shallow and interested only in instant sex.
Second, The Roundtable of Men is a great bonus, I think. Here is a chance to listen to men talk about what they really want from women--and it's not just sex.
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