Fundamentals

We were all teens at one time for some many years ago even if we don’t like to admit it. Many of us can look back and say our teen years were good, but with many ups and downs as we approached adulthood. Some of us maybe were lucky enough to have parents we […]

Despite the fact that their own ratings systems found the material appropriate only for adults, the motion picture, music, and video game industries practice “pervasive and aggressive marketing” of violent movies, music, and electronic games to children. - Federal Trade Commission finding regarding child entertainment
The values depicted on TV and movie screens are a […]

Learning obedience is an important part of child development. This is the tool that allows you as parents to train your child. Through obedience your child will learn self-control and develop other positive character traits that he will need as an adult.
However, obedience cannot be forced upon the child. Parents who simply command their […]

Are you being the person you want your children to be?
Many parents today really try to be better parents than their parents were. They attempt to be there for their children - to listen to them, support them, spend time with them, as well as hold and nurture them. Their children grow up feeling […]

As a parent, you need to set limits and instill appropriate behavior in young children. Sometimes, the best ways to accomplish this are not very obvious. Here are several suggestions to help you accomplish this more easily.
* Give specific instructions. “Be good” is not a specific instruction. “I’ll play with you after you […]

First of all there are some very important factors to consider for discipline to work well. Without them, your efforts to effectively teach your children will ultimately fail.
1. INFLUENCE: You cannot teach what you do not live. For example, you cannot teach your child not to yell at you, if you yell at your […]

Think about your interactions with your children today. How many things did you notice they did wrong? What did you do or say to them because of their wrong doings? Have they engaged in the same kind of behavior before? What did you do or say the times before? Is it working? How many […]

CHALLENGE: “Whenever David doesn’t get his way he throws himself on the floor, screams, kicks and cries incessantly. What can we do to help him overcome this behavior?”
TIP: What is David getting out of this behavior. First make sure that you are not rewarding this type of behavior, positively or negatively because both […]

Control and Responsibility
Dear Daughter,
In an earlier letter we touched on the concepts of control and responsibility. Let’s go a little deeper with these important ideas.
If you ever find that someone’s behavior is “driving you nuts,” please slow down and consider the possibility of control issues on your part. Did you know that […]

Dear Daughter,
I love you so much. I wish that I could always protect you from all dangers, but I know that I can’t. You are growing up and you will have to face dangers and make some decisions on your own. However, I am always here and I can always be a pretty good […]